Michael (fireheart) wrote in youmakeithappen,

"It's Not That Easy"

I am a person who has little sympathy for people who cannot take control of their own lives. I often encounter a situation and say "you/he/she/it should seize this situation, take control of it, and make it what you/he/she/it wants it to be!" The answer I usually get is "It's not that easy." followed by some sort of explanation about how I cannot possibly understand the difficulty that the other person has in making things the way she wants them to be.

Many people mistakenly assume that I do not have the same issues to deal with because I generally do not show the signs of it. However, I show no signs because I have chosen to take control and make my mind and body work for me. For example, I have been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder. I often run into people who have ADD who cannot focus, cannot get things done, forget things, miss appointments, lose things, etc. They claim that they are disabled because they have ADD and their is nothing they can do about it. It is as if ADD is their destiny and they cannot fight it.

When I was first diagnosed, I took Ritalin for a while. It was somewhat helpful, but left me tired, so I stopped taking it. Thus, I have basically unmedicated ADD. However, I can hold a thread of conversation. I don't lose my keys. I generally don't forget appointments. How do I do this? Some speculate that I may have a milder form of ADD. I think that's a cop out, and an excuse for them not to work as hard as I do. I can hold a thread of conversation because when something random pops into my head, I recognize it as such and keep it to myself. How do I not lose my keys? I don't put them down. I carry everything I cannot afford to lose on me, and because it comes out of the pocket, gets used, and goes back into the pocket, it stays with me. How do I remember appointments? I recognize that my memory is poor, so I write things down. I have a notebook, a datebook, and a phone with an alarm. I use them all because I need them all.

I also show some signs of manic depression and OCD, but I control those as well. I do not know if the tendancies are strong enough to be called disorders, but I have controled them to such a degree that they would not be recognizable as such anyway.

My point here is that your mind is your own. Many people have trouble dealing with that. I certainly did. Your mind is the seat of thought. How can you use it to overcome itself. The fact is that, unless you are severely disabled, you have the power of logic and reason. This power is more powerful than anything else that happens in your mind. You can reason your way through ADD. You can reason your way through depression. You can reason your way through OCD. You can reason your way through anything that your mind throws at you, if, and only if, you believe that you can. That too is a choice which you make.

All this said, I do not have a problem with people who are struggling with a mental disorder, as long as they are working through it in some way. Manic depression, for example, can be a powerful tool if one can minimize the depressive states and maximize the manic states. If, for example, during the depressive states, one works to get back above water, then during the manic states, one takes advantage of the energy to be productive, one can be more functional than a "healthy person." However, if one lies in bed all day while depressed then plays video games while manic, one will be a failure.

It's all about the attitude and understanding that you make it happen.
Tags: mental illness
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